Why do we change partners? If you prefer, we can turn over the question: why do not we change partners?

You change. On the one hand, we change to find "the right one", for a sense of independence - right or wrong - and even the evolution of inheritance (because, say the anthropologists, we are serial monogamous). For some, there are times in life when falling in love would be unfortunate, because falling in love is a challenging experience, absorbs a lot of energy and could detract from personal goals that at the moment does not contemplate the couple.

It does not change. On the other hand, if we decide not to change partners is stable because the couple does live better, reduces stress, and even allows new challenges because it prolongs life. There are times when you feel that life has settled, and that falling in love and married life can be an accomplishment that makes life even better.

Here is what you probably do (or think with impunity be able to do) "those that yes" and "those who no": not for avviarvi the best strategy (God forbid! You already know very well how to get by), but to enable you to recognize all possible signals the precise path he wants to take the other!

How NOT to fall in love

How to fall in love

If your first kiss or worse, the first chat function, you have to go to the chase as soon as possible, avoiding emotional implications.

Never twice in a row with the same person, and certainly not three in a month. Minimize pampering pre and post intercourse to reduce the production of oxytocin, a hormone that promotes the binding. Please allow time between meetings, inframmezzandoli with those with other partners.

Avoid looking the other person in the eyes, the nose is a great substitute. Avoid sharing personal information: the bond begins with empathy.

Dating together and isolate themselves only for the time needed to effusions, no friendship on Facebook.

If others want to learn more, to mention children and marriage may favor their escape.

Look for a free person, who does not need to be constantly in the spotlight, or reassured, and be responsive to their "love map" (physical appearance, "brain", ideal world, interests).

Watching each other's eyes, smiling (lit areas of the brain associated with well-being and intimacy) if the pupils dilate, it is reciprocated.

To imitate the other's body language: body posture, tone of voice, speed of speech; This "mirroring" increases the feeling of closeness.

Talk about personal details and hear each other at least half an hour, then keep quiet and look into his eyes for four minutes: some psychologists are "34 decisive minutes."

Making love with the same person as often as possible: oxytocin produced helps to tighten the bond.

From Focus