Summary: These days, many think it is easier to break away from a partner who break away from their romantic ideals and their own fantasies. Many times it is not necessarily the other to be wrong, but that's what we expect from a relationship to be. not embark in a relationship because you want to experience something new emotionally. And break as little as possible.

When one story is a bit 'like having to punch in the stomach for weeks.
It is not only the debilitating physical and emotional pain-rupture destroys you everyday.
It destroys your plans for the future, your human relationships, the lease and the conviction that the world is a nice place.
According to the stress scale devised by psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe, only the partner's death creates more stress the end of a relationship.
Despite the pain, though, many of us have survived the end of the relationship than I have had in our grandparents lifetime.
But that's good, right?
We have the opportunity to find our perfect partner, while couples of past generations were together maybe because society imposed it.
The German psychiatrist Adelheid Kastner disagrees.
The doctor directs the psychiatric department of Kelper University Clinic in Linz, and is known for having lent his advice during the Josef Fritzl trial.
In his latest book he looks at cases where the end of a relationship has dramatically damaged or destroyed lives, and claims that could have been avoided.
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If you consider your physical well-being after a breakup, even after a long time ', it is clear that not necessarily'll be happier in the next report.
According to the sites of events, you can change boyfriend as change car tires, and many take for granted that the next partner will make their lives better.
But it is also possible to find people who can do it.
Although the report and breakage occur in twenty to thirty years?
Of course, the chance to meet a new person who can work better there are many more at that age.
But even at 35, most of the people who understand what it takes to run a report are no longer available.
Adelheid Kastner.
Photo of Rudolf Gigler.
I never would wish to go out with the guy I was 16 years old.
So I was interested in only that a boy had nice hair, she sounded good rollasse guitar and reeds.
Is not it true that you understand what is really important to you after you've failed a few times and know yourself a little better?
Be ', I think in twenty years you already know what you care in a relationship.
What do you think of the betrayal?
What kind of family do you want?
They can change the circumstances, but the way you think some things will not change dramatically almost never.
And we must always keep in mind that to have a successful relationship, you must know how to adapt.
One does not remain equal partners for ten, twenty years.
A stable relationship is mostly based on the sharing of the same values and the will and ability to deal with obstacles.
It is not just a matter of finding the perfect person, that fits us like a glove.
But there are cases where it is better to finish it?
Yes, of course: if the partner does not respect us or accept us, if we humble or we do not take it seriously.
I only say that the motivation behind a break should not be who you think you can find better.
It should be: are happier alone.
And if you change partners every two or three years, then it's hard to feel at home with someone.
Are you telling me that we throw in the towel too quickly.
These days, many think it is easier to break away from a partner who break away from their romantic ideals and their own fantasies.
Many times it is not necessarily the other to be wrong, but that's what we expect from a relationship to be.
My grandparents have been together for more than forty years, until the death of my grandfather.
When I asked my grandmother to tell me about their relationship, he said: "The secret of a long relationship is not to end it."
But then, the weddings were not held together only by love, but also the economic and social needs.
Sure, but it was not just the circumstances.
I think there was more attention to taking care of each other.
Today, it seems easier to replace things rather than fix them-the phone, the computer, the washing machine, the boyfriend.
If you had to give advice, you would not embark in a relationship because you want to experience something new emotionally.
And break as little as possible.
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