Summary: No! generally, we tend to repeat, over time, the same original relational pattern, as they are part of us and our way of relating with each other.

When a relationship ends, and he embarks on a new one, we can implement new and better relationship dynamics to be more successful with the new partner?
What reveals a recent study in this regard?
Advertising message when ending a relationship, and he embarks on a new, often it recurs to implement new and better relationship dynamics in order to be more successful with the new partner.
However, a recent German study has revealed that good intention is very far from reality: in general, we tend to repeat, over time, the same original relational pattern, as they are part of us and our way of entering relationship with the other.
The study examined the relational life of 554 persons, taking into account some information concerning the beginning and end of a first love affair and the first and second year of a new relationship.
In particular, the typical relational dynamics of the participants were checked by monitoring seven relational factors: satisfaction of sexual life; satisfaction of the general report; frequency of sexual intercourse; level of opening of the communication between the partners; frequency of appreciation addressed to the partner; frequency of conflicts and confidence in the soundness of the report.
The study suggests that, in general, for each participant, these factors have remained unchanged in the first and second report, with the exception of sexual frequency and appreciation to the partner who seems to tend to increase in the second report.
Advertising message Therefore, this study seems to highlight the tendency to repeat the same relationship patterns in love stories, because implicit mental patterns and inflexible.
However, the only two changing factors (sexual frequency and appreciation) between the two reports may be explained in view of the classic course of a relationship, marked by certain steps.
In fact, the first phase of a relationship, known as the phase of the "honeymoon" would be characterized by extreme excitement and an intended involvement, physical and emotional, for the beginning of a new experience.
This does not allow you to have a comprehensive and realistic vision of the new partners who would be in this idealized way.
On the other hand, as soon as this step would arrive at the end, the partners would be looked at realistically, with its strengths and weaknesses, and the report would begin to materialize in the responsibilities of everyday life.
It would be precisely the moment when the old relational schemas is ripresenterebbero.
This, if on the one hand gives continuity to our way of being with each other, on the other hand may be dysfunctional at the moment when we realize the dysfunction of such schemes and we do not do anything to change them.

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